10 Things that Make Leadership Lonely

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Anyone who has been a leader for any length of time will attest to the fact that being in leadership means getting used to feeling lonely. I’ve listed ten things below that leaders face that can cause leaders to feel isolated and alone.

  1. Dealing with non-performing or poor performing staff or volunteer leaders.
  2. Casting the tiebreaker vote on a board when the issue being considered is divisive and emotional to both sides.
  3. Speaking out against sin or disobedience in a key leaders life when you know that they are super sensitive to criticism of any kind.
  4. Facing marital challenges or parental challenges in your own home that could give your critics ammunition to use against you.
  5. When a key leader you’ve mentored, protected and encouraged for years betrays you and seeks to have you removed without ever having been open and honest with you.
  6. When people make up their own false conclusions about decisions you and the board have made and you can’t say anything to correct them without violating the confidentiality of the board or the person(s) involved.
  7. Your immediate supervisor fields criticisms of your leadership and you have to meet with your accusers but can’t really express any frustration or anger at their betrayal.
  8. Spearheading a major spending initiative that fails and cost the church a lot of money.
  9. Struggling against the unfair expectations placed on you, your spouse and your children.
  10. Being the leader of a dying or dead congregation with few prospects of getting a transfer and few chances of seeing any fruit from your labors.

I’m sure there are many more than 10 possible reasons why leadership can be lonely. If you can think of more, I encourage you to write them below!