Protecting Our Family from Our Members

Protecting Our Family from Our Members

No one can know the burdens carried by the pastor and members of their immediate family other than other pastors. Members often place unrealistic expectations on pastors and their families. Imperfections are often not tolerated. Any perceived mistep becomes grounds...
4 Ways to Ruin Your Honeymoon

4 Ways to Ruin Your Honeymoon

Have you just started in your new church? Good news! You have a honeymoon to enjoy! The first 6-9 months of a new pastorate can be a fun and fruitful time. Your members are getting to know you while you are getting to know them. It is a time of optimism. A time where...
Emotional Vampires: Book Review

Emotional Vampires: Book Review

There are many things that make pastoring difficult. We are expected to be a jack of all trades. We are often expected to be administrators, strategic planners, awe-inspiring preachers, excellent teachers, counselors, be present for all births, funerals and special...
When Pastoring Hurts Too Much

When Pastoring Hurts Too Much

As a young, newly minted pastor I received a lot of advice. One piece of advice I remember someone giving me was that if I could do anything else other than pastoring successfully I should do it. The idea being that for one who is called to the ministry, God will not...
Can Pastors Be Close Friends With Those They Also Pastor?

Can Pastors Be Close Friends With Those They Also Pastor?

“Pastors should never be friends with members of their own congregation.” More than one of my professors in both my undergrad theology classes and my mDiv graduate classes offered this advice. As a young person I didn’t understand where they were coming from. I’ve always been a take me as I am kind of person. I have never liked being fake or inauthentic.

Too Busy to Spend Time with God

Too Busy to Spend Time with God

I feel the weight of responsibility on my shoulders as a pastor. I have never had a single day where I had no task or no pressing matter to attend to. The list of tasks I should be doing are very long. The list of expectations from members are too numerous to mention. The hours in the day too short.