No one likes to be criticized. It doesn’t feel good. It also tends to touch pain points we all have developed since childhood. As little children, when our parents got upset at us, we would internalize these events as there being something wrong with us.
I was recently visiting the ChurchLeaders.com blog and read an article called Pastoral Plagiarism: 10 Do’s and Don’ts. It made me think about the issue of Pastoral Ethics. You may or may not have come across a pastor who has plagiarized a sermon or a series of sermons before. I know it happens not only from what I have read but also from what I have experienced indirectly.
Every pastor who has pastored for any length of time has experienced circumstances where their church board doesn’t see eye to eye with them. You have this grand vision of where the church should go or what the next step is but some people on your board don’t agree with you.
I have often struggled with knowing how to confront difficult people in difficult situations. When it comes to my attention that one of my leaders is being disloyal to me or to the organization, do I go confront them? How do I even broach the subject? For that matter, why is my default reaction to get angry?